I love, love, love the energy and healing I get from attending a Cuddle Party. I hear so many different things about the experience and I can firsthand tell you that the experience you have is up to you. First, no one is having sex at a Cuddle Party. There are boundaries that are adhered to by all attendees. There are some rules and they are respected. I have never had a negative event, so I am a fan of cuddling.
I want to become a facilitator for Cuddling Parties. It takes training and there is a foundation that offers a weekend program that includes coaching, CPR, and facilitator skills. I would love to add this to my resume of services that I offer my clients. A cuddle/puddle is an experience designed to allow people to experience non-sexual, group physical intimacy through cuddling. Of course, you must ask permission and receive an energetic yes before you touch anyone. You can change your mind at any time. You don’t have to cuddle anyone at a Cuddle Party, ever.
The environment is cozy, and the pleasure comes from the release of oxytocin! It helps when there is soft music and munchies. It is necessary to tell you that there should be no intoxicants. The only high should be natural. You should be clear-minded and open to receiving the energy from the puddle. At the end of the event, there is a closing “ceremony” that includes a conversation of thoughts from the event. As a facilitator, I love the thought of helping individuals open themselves up from the benefits of Cuddle Parties.
Participants are often in a state of cuddle intoxication at the end. Feeling a sense of connection with the group that they never would have anticipated at the beginning of the event. Folks are free to exchange hugs, phone numbers and receive thank you’s from the facilitator for making the cuddle party special. I think that could be so fulfilling. So here is what I have experienced at cuddle parties that may sway you to try it. The first thing you do is change into pajamas.
Oh, and clothing matters. Wear something that is not risqué. Something comfortable not sexy. Think no lace, no shorts but drawstrings. Bring a pillow or anything that makes you feel safe and comfortable. There was no liquor, and everyone seemed lucid. There was sparkling cider and water to go with fruit and crackers. The setup was very calm and inviting. We sat in a circle until we began to connect with others.
We created a welcome circle where we were all welcomed to create the structure and safe space for socializing. We were able to introduce ourselves and we played a get to know you game that allowed me to sync with the environment. We were taught the cuddle party philosophy. What I saw was participants cuddling in groups, as two and some talked and didn’t cuddle at all. We were told that we could feel free to be feet against feet, give full-body hugs, head rubs, spooning… it really was up to me to decide what I wanted from the group. I had the best head rubs! It was relaxing and I must admit, I slept better.
All during the experience, the facilitator participated with us. Encouraging us to feel relaxed and supported and having a great time. I got oriented to the rules as we moved through a very organized process of exchanging energy and staying in the moment. I felt comfortable to cuddle in my comfort and I carried on a few great conversations with other participants. Lying down while being held allowed me to fall into my thoughts and feel safe to explore what was heavy on my mind. Some self-reflection so to speak.
As I write this, I am getting excited about being a facilitator. I am that happy with my experiences, I want to offer this to others. Cuddle Parties serve a purpose. As an Orgasm Coach, I believe attending a Cuddle Party will give clients an opportunity to feel something different. To learn something about themselves sexually. To experience something that is pleasurable, but not sexual. is an experience. Cuddle Parties happen all over, you can invite one into your home by finding a facilitator in your area. You have got to find a Cuddle Party in your area. I hope reading this you will find yourself wanting to play.
